Dating an older man daddy issues
Fw-300 #ya-qn-sort h2 /* Breadcrumb */ #ya-question-breadcrumb #ya-question-breadcrumb i #ya-question-breadcrumb a #bc .ya-q-full-text, .ya-q-text #ya-question-detail h1 html[lang="zh-Hant-TW"] .ya-q-full-text, html[lang="zh-Hant-TW"] .ya-q-text, html[lang="zh-Hant-HK"] .ya-q-full-text, html[lang="zh-Hant-HK"] .ya-q-text html[lang="zh-Hant-TW"] #ya-question-detail h1, html[lang="zh-Hant-HK"] #ya-question-detail h1 /* Trending Now */ /* Center Rail */ #ya-center-rail .profile-banner-default .ya-ba-title #Stencil . Bgc-lgr .tupwrap .comment-text /* Right Rail */ #Stencil . Fw-300 .qstn-title #ya-trending-questions-show-more, #ya-related-questions-show-more #ya-trending-questions-more, #ya-related-questions-more /* DMROS */ .They can treat you like both a child and a lover, taking care of you but also desiring you.Unfortunately, just because a man is older doesn’t mean he’s more mature, and you might be drawn to an older man who is just like your father – in a bad way.If your father left you, emotionally or physically, then you might be paranoid that any man can leave you. But all men aren’t like your father, and decent men won’t just disappear from your life like he did. When he wants to hang out with the guys, you get anxious, certain that he’s out cheating on you.Nevertheless, your experiences make you hold on tightly to whomever you’re dating – too tightly. Ironically, smothering of him might drive him away, which will only make you more paranoid that the next man will leave as well.Like some women, you might latch onto one long-term serious relationship after another, seeking stability. The men you date don’t even have to be good men – in fact, some of them might be distant or abusive, like a bad father – but all that matters is that you never have to learn how to love yourself. A woman who plays into men’s desires finds herself coveted and showered with attention, if only for one night.Sadly, you might be attracting jerks who are just using you for sex, and if you begin to associate sex with self-worth and control, you’ll get trapped in a cycle.
Most people use “daddy issues” to describe a very sexual woman, like a stripper, or a prostitute, or the neighbor who brings home a new guy every night. Not everyone who enjoys sex has daddy issues, and not everyone with daddy issues enjoys sex. Psychologist Carl Jung called daddy issues the Electra Complex.
A woman with the Electra Complex constantly seeks attention from men, positive or negative, in order to compensate for her father’s absence from her life.
According to Jung, women who grew up with fathers who were physically or emotionally absent try to fill the role by getting male attention any way that they can. Just because you grew up with your father in the house doesn’t mean he was truly present.
The only thing I could perhaps fault my Dad on is that although he was a very good father and told me he loved me he never gave much physical affection. As for said older man, we have a very unique relationship in that he almost does treat me like a child. It sounds WAY worse than it is but I must admit I am starting to feel a bit concerned and I now I am very much in love with him... You say you don't have daddy issues and it doesn't sound like you do so perhaps you're just attracted to older men?
I know that must sound extremely odd but an example would be before going to sleep he will tell me to brush my teeth and wash my face (I would do it anyway ). The real question is what do you want, what does he want, is it compatible or possible?