Dating a pathological liar
as someone who has a “long history (maybe lifelong history) of frequent and repeated lying for which no apparent psychological motive or external benefit can be discerned,” and being in a relationship with one can make you literally question your own sanity.However, keep in mind that– as the definition suggests– pathological liars lie just to lie.He told us why he left the Seals: he was in a small village in Afghanistan, doing the rounds with a teammate.The teammate stepped on a mine that was under a rock, and the rock shattered, going through Eric’s leg and badly damaging it.I didn’t think much of it when he told me he’d been a Navy Seal. We spoke every single day; we would sleep with Face Time on so that we could wake up seeing each other.
He came over and introduced himself to me, and he had this amazing smile.
Unfortunately, that doesn’t apply to the pathological liar.
They’ve perfected the art of lying and are aware of those basic behaviors.
Sure, we’re all guilty of telling the occasional white lie, but when you’re in a relationship, honesty is generally the best policy — particularly if you want it to last. But just ’cause you’re being so real with him, it doesn’t mean he’s going to pay you the same courtesy. After being lied to all the time instead of walking away, you’ll surrender to not knowing what to believe. After seeing the way your BF lies and makes you feel insecure, your friends might call you crazy for staying with him.
However, when you end up dating a guy who not only flubs the details on the little things but compulsively lies about the big stuff too, it completely screws with your head. You don’t know if what he said about his weekend whereabouts was true, you don’t know if he meant what he said about calling or about liking you so much… A liar won’t feel sympathy for you because he’s too wrapped up in his own BS. Sooner or later, you and the compulsive liar will get into a huge fight. It’s a horrible place to be because it means you don’t believe him but you don’t doubt him enough to walk away, so you’re stuck in limbo. But you want to stick around because you want the guy he used to be to return. You hope you’re wrong and he’s telling you the truth.